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01
Identify the connection
Speak from a bounded, respectful professional perspective.
I am [Speaker], and I worked with [Name] at [Organization]. To [Name]'s family and friends, thank you for letting us share a little of the person we knew at work. I want to speak about [Project or Work Artifact], because there is something of [Name]'s attention still visible in it.
Say it: Face the family briefly, then the room.
02
Describe the care in the work
Make professional praise tangible.
During [Project Stage], [Name] noticed [Small Important Detail]. They asked [Useful Question], then [Specific Action]. The result was [Accurate, Modest Improvement]. I remember [One Human Detail of the Process], and the satisfaction they took in getting that part right. It showed their [Quality] more clearly than any formal description of their role could. They cared about the person who would eventually [Use or Receive the Work].
Say it: Explain the project in one accessible sentence.
03
Remember the person beyond the output
Avoid reducing a life to productivity.
We also remember [Name]'s interest in [Shareable Personal Interest], the way they [Harmless Habit], and our conversations about [Safe Topic]. Work gave us a place to meet them. It did not give us the whole of their life. Listening to the memories shared today, I am grateful to learn more about the person who sat beside us.
Say it: Pause after acknowledging the limits of your perspective.
04
Close with a concrete intention
Offer a sustainable act of remembrance.
I will remember [Name] when I [Related Ordinary Work Action], and I will try to give that detail the attention they gave it. To their family, please know that [Specific Quality or Contribution] was seen and valued by us. We are thankful for the time we had with [Name], and deeply sorry that it was not longer.
Say it: Finish without an applause cue.
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