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Wedding speech desk

Every wedding speech, by role.

Best man, maid of honor, parents of the bride and groom, and toasts from the table: full examples, a template, the timing, two free generators, and cue cards for the room.

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Every speech, by role.

Best man

3 to 4 minutes

The groom's brother or closest friend. Usually the longest speech of the night, and the one the room is waiting for.

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Maid of honor

2 to 4 minutes

The bride's sister or best friend. One story that sounds like the friendship, and one line for her partner.

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Free tools for the room

From blank page to cue cards.

Best man speech generatorSix questions, an editable draft in seconds, then coaching or cue cards.Wedding toast generatorPick your role, add one story, choose 30, 60, or 90 seconds.Cue card makerPaste any speech, print 3x5 cards, rehearse the same deck on your phone.Speech order plannerA reception running order with timings and handoffs for every speaker.Speech timerSee the speaking time and trim to a target length.Joke checkerFlags exes, private details, and jokes that need the groom to be a good sport.

A reliable shape

Four moves, whatever your role.

  1. 01

    Know your slot

    Best man and maid of honor get three to four minutes; parents two to four; everyone else under ninety seconds.

  2. 02

    Choose one story

    A moment the whole room can picture, that shows a habit the person still has.

  3. 03

    Turn toward the couple

    One specific thing you have watched them do for each other, with their partner's name in it.

  4. 04

    Raise the glass

    Both names and a wish that repeats the story. Then stop.

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Wedding speech questions

What is the usual order of wedding speeches?
Traditionally: the father of the bride (or whoever is hosting), then the groom or the couple, then the best man, then the maid of honor if she is speaking. Many receptions now open with the parents, run the honor attendants back to back, and end with the couple's thank-you. Keep the whole block under twenty-five minutes.
How long should each wedding speech be?
Best man and maid of honor: three to four minutes. Parents: two to four, shorter if two parents are speaking. Groomsmen, bridesmaids, and siblings: one to two minutes if invited to speak. Everyone else: a toast under ninety seconds.
What do all good wedding speeches have in common?
Four parts in the same order: who you are and how you know the person, one story that shows a habit they still have, a specific turn toward the couple with the partner's name in it, and a short toast that repeats the story. Length changes by role; the shape does not.
Should I write my wedding speech or use a generator?
Use the generator to get past the blank page, then edit until every sentence is something you would say out loud. The free tools here produce a first draft from your own names and story in seconds; the guided coaching flow then tightens it while keeping your voice.
How do I rehearse a wedding speech?
Out loud, standing up, with the speech on cards rather than a phone. Time one full run, mark the cards where you stumbled, cut or split those, and run it again. Say the opening line and the toast from memory. The cue card maker prints the cards and rehearses the same deck on your phone.